The BIG problem with the “nurturing the nurturers” program is that it will inevitably offend all the mothers on this Planet. They will feel criticized, marginalized, condescended to, etc etc. This is such a sensitive issue.

And yet, Winnicott reminds us that “good enough” nurturance must NOT be perfect. Lapses are absolutely essential, because they create an opportunity for repair, and once this has happened several times, a microculture is created that includes opportunities for repair, and this in turn makes for a much safer and more secure environment. It is no longer a case of “one mistake and you’re dead”.

How do we address this dilemma? Your comments, anyone out there.